Let me first say that I am not gay. However, I do have close friends (and at least one relative) who are. In fact, one of my best friends happens to be gay and I still remember clearly the day he told me and how afraid he was that I'd stop being his friend. I would even say that I was homophobic until that day. But, when someone you care about tells you they're gay, and if you have any sense of decency your opinion will change. Unless you are blinded by a condition of moral superiority and intolerance, it won't matter to you that the person who has been your friend or son or cousin is gay.
I wrote this a while back to address people who are vehemently anti-gay. I doubt it'll change their minds, but gay folks kill themselves frequently exactly because of the reason I illustrate below. I also KNEW someone who's mother told him "I wish you would have told me you have terminal cancer rather than telling me you're gay" along with several others who were disowned by their "Christian" families (that's really Christian...proclaiming yourself God and giving yourself the right to judge). It's crazy to me.Pathway to destruction.
What do you think could happen if you make the decision that being gay is a "choice" rather than a natural variation in the human condition? What happens if you decide that, rather than being part of God's plan, something humans cannot possibly know, that being gay is in fact a reprehensible sin perpetrated by people who have chosen a path of evil rather than a path to the Almighty?
Lets say you have a son, and you tell your son from a very early age that being h0m0sexual is bad. When your hypothetical son is young, it won't be a problem because people don't think about others in a sexual way until later
However, around the age of 12, your hyposon will start to have feelings towards boys he doesn't understand. This will be deeply confusing to hyposon. On one hand, the boys call each other "f@gs" and "h0m0" as insults and mom and dad says that gays are bad, but on the other hand hyposon thinks boys are kinda cute. This doesn't add up, but he goes and kicks Susie in the chin anyway because that's what the other boys do at that age to prove they like girls.
At the age of 13 or 14, when the other boys are talking about what they'd like to do to the girls, hyposon will be thinking "gosh, I'd like to do those things with the other boys". Alas, hyposon will continue to talk to the boys about how he wants a "BJ" from Susie, even though he doesn't know what a "BJ" is and doesn't have any real desire to be anywhere near Susie because he's not attracted to girls. He begins to wonder what a "BJ" might be like from Chuckie, though
Well, hyposon will continue with his charade about how he likes girls, and will even take a few to dances and other social events, making his father very proud. He'll talk to dad about how those h0m0s are messing up society and that it's absurd that they should want the things that "normal" folks want. All the while, the internal conflict will grow. Hyposon will wonder "what's wrong with me? It's obvious that being gay is morally reprehensible...dad's been telling me that my whole life...but I really think I like boys."
Since hypoboy will continue to think that there's something wrong with him, mainly because he looks up to pops and therefore doesn't consider that perhaps pops is wrong, he will continue to struggle